10 Things That Are Normal in Grief

A Children’s Corner Resource

Grief does not look the same for everyone. Grief is the deep, heavy sadness a person feels when someone or something they love is taken away. There is no “correct” timeline, reaction, or “right way”. Many children, teens, and adults experience some of the following:

Big Emotions
Sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, or even moments of peace—sometimes all in one day.

Feeling Numb
Some days you may not feel much at all. Numbness can be a protective response.

Trouble Sleeping
Difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or having vivid dreams.

Changes in Appetite
Eating more or less than usual.

Difficulty Concentrating
School, work, or daily tasks may feel harder than before.

Wanting to Be Alone
You may need quiet time more often.

Wanting More Connection
Some days you may not want to be alone at all.

Physical Feelings
Headaches, stomachaches, tiredness, or tension can be connected to stress and grief.

Feeling Angry at the Situation
Anger is a common part of grief, especially when a death involved violence or injustice.

Laughing or Smiling Again
Moments of joy do not mean you have forgotten. It is okay to feel happiness, too.

Gentle Reminder
Grief can change over time. If your feelings feel overwhelming or unsafe, talking to a trusted adult, advocate, counselor, or support professional can help.