10 Things You Still Get to Control

A Children’s Corner Resource

When someone you love dies because of a crime, it can feel like everything changed at once. Even during difficult times, there are still things that belong to you.

What You Share
You decide how much of your story you tell.

Who You Talk To
You get to choose trusted people.

When You Take a Break
Stepping away is allowed.

How You Remember
There is no “right” way to honor someone.

What You Wear
Small choices can help you feel grounded.

Whether You Attend Certain Court Dates
Talk with your advocate about options.

How You Respond to Questions
Short answers or no answers are both okay.

When You Ask for Help
Needing support is not a weakness.

The Boundaries You Set
You can protect your energy and privacy.

The Care You Give Yourself
Rest, food, movement, quiet, and connection—these are choices you still own.

Gentle Closing
You may not control what happened. You may not control how long the process takes.
But your voice, your boundaries, and your care for yourself still matter.

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Ohio Victim Witness Association}